For the first few days after Dahlia was born, we had two friends over from Seattle – Kris and her daughter Kim. They were the MVPs of Dahlia’s first 10 days of life. They provided us with words of wisdom, nourishment and support while we got rest, and encouragement when spirits were low. When they left, my parents and my sister visited us to see the new baby. My family was very surprised at how efficient our baby handling operations had become!
As we get a break from visitors, we have been reflecting on the lessons we have learned in the first two weeks. We don’t need to feel isolated as new parents. We’ve been able to go out for walks, enjoy some meals at restaurants, and attend many doctors visits without stressing out. This weekend, Dahlia will take her first flight to Michigan where she will see Megan’s parents. While I am stressed about the trip, I’m recognizing that I am stressed out about any new experience for Dahlia. Fortunately, Megan provides me with a reality check on my anxiety.
Dahlia is currently 8lbs 5 ounces and 21 inches tall; this is 7 ounces and 2.5 inches more than where she was when she was born. She just graduated from the lactation clinic as an expert milk drinker! As a team we are getting at least 6 hours of sleep a night which is helping us stay happy and healthy.
Some of the highlights from this period (other than the visitors): Dahlia’s first bath, realizing that Dahlia’s little digestive system doesn’t take a nap when you change her diapers, getting her footprint and handprint as a keepsake, and the strange question about what to do with a baby’s umbilical cord when it falls off.
Our professional photographs are in! These were taken at Cape Canaveral Hospital in Cocoa Beach, FL. We worked with a skilled photographer who captured the wonders of this big milestone for our family.
Before Dahlia was born, one of our big concerns was how Silly Goose, our 8 year old cat, would take to the new family member. The first day, Goose stayed far away from all of us and isolated himself on our tiny patio. The next day, he joined us in bed but stayed awake for all our hijinks. Afterwards, he was as exhausted as we were. Last night, he got back into his normal spot above my pillow and even gave us his normal 5:15AM “get out of bed” alarm. We think Dahlia and Goose will be good friends!
Enjoy the photos! In the next post, we plan on discussing the importance of friends and family during this special time.
I once said that the tattoo on the back of my arm was the male version of childbirth in terms of pain and endurance. Now that we’ve experienced childbirth, I would like to personally apologize to every female on the planet for underestimating this miracle.
Dahlia Jean is here! After 10 hours of labor when my wife was induced on August 10, our baby was born at 5:41 PM Eastern at a weight of 7lbs 14 ounces. She is a beautiful, healthy, and vivacious baby girl. Megan and I are in love. I think she has my eyes and my hair. Fortunately, she gets everything else from her gorgeous mom. I suspect that everything in my life prior to August 10 (pre-DJ) will no longer be as memorable as all the events that occur after.
Right now, our lives revolve around Dahlia’s needs. We use an app called Baby Tracker to record her every action – you’d be surprised at how much hard work that is even for a newborn that can only eat, sleep, and poop at this point – and it might as well account for all of our activities too. Even when I’m away from the little one, I can’t stop thinking about her. Physically, getting enough sleep is a huge struggle!
Megan has many additional challenges to deal with. Her body went through tremendous changes during pregnancy and childbirth takes a huge toll on the body. I’m glad I can be here to help during the minimum recovery time of six weeks while we learn how to take care of our precious new DJ.
I’m taking one month off from work for “baby bonding time” using FMLA (America’s 1993 Family and Medical Leave Act); it will only scratch the surface of how much time we truly need for a good foundation for Dahlia’s care. Reading about all the companies and countries that are doubling their current alottments (Netflix has switched to an unlimited allowed leave), I’m glad that there are changes coming when it comes to parental leave. There are tremendous benefits to being able to safely transition into the immense challenges of raising a child. No one should have to do it alone and unsupported.
Malcolm Gladwell says that it takes 10,000 hours to become world class at a skill. If this first week is any measuring stick, Megan and I will soon become masters of the swaddle, breastfeeding, and diapers. Having friends visit during this time is awesome. Special thanks to Kris and Kim for helping out! We’re looking forward to getting help from our families as well.
Enjoy our photos from these first few days! A photographer took professional photos of us while we were in the hospital; I will upload them as soon as possible.
It has been five years since we last spoke. Since then, I have gotten married and we have moved to Cape Canaveral, Florida.
But that’s not what this post is about. Megan and I (from here on out, referred to as “we”) are expecting Dahlia Jean Koorse in the next few hours. She is named after our favorite flower and the middle name is for Megan’s grandmother who is our role model. We are anxiously awaiting her arrival.
While we wait, I’ve been reviewing how we want to communicate with our friends and family about her. Given that I’ve paid for this domain for years without using it effectively, it is a great tool for this. We will provide at least one update a month about our progress as well as any important pictures or videos.
I’m surprised at how much I think about my mom and dad at this moment. As I think about what it means to become a parent, I realize that all my concepts of being a good parent come from them. They were amazing! I think that the next few years will be an incredible opportunity to learn more about their strategies and show them how much I appreciate what they did in providing us with clear rules, stability, and optimism.
I would also like to thank Mark and Erin – my friends from the Peace Corps – who created an amazing blog to write stories about their son, Chance. Although I have not spent much time with them since Chance was born, I feel like I’ve been with them on the journey. Their blog has inspired the direction for this site.
I’ve included some pictures of the past nine months to show how far we’ve come.
That was not my marathon time although I wish it was. That was how long I waited in line for my pre-ordered iPhone 4 and it was worth it. Despite the antennae issues and host of other problems, it is the best technology purchase I’ve made in a while. It has replaced my camera, GPS, and mp3 player.
5 hours and 30 minutes.
My third marathon was incredibly fun. Faced with the prospect of flying to Europe the next day, I decided to run at a slower pace. It was the best decision I could have made. It was my first pain-free run of this marathon cycle. I didn’t need much recovery time either which was a fantastic. However, for future marathons, I look forward to having family in the crowd to root for me and provide the lift for the last half of the marathon (the 6.2 miles).
2 hours and 45 minutes.
My wedding. Top of a beautiful mountain in Cinque Terre, Italy. It was a difficult hike and we were drenched in sweat after our adventures. It was perfect.
I’m waiting for my wife to get back to Seattle after her eight difficult months working in Germany. This feels like the last part of the winding line for the iPhone. It feels like the last 3 miles of the Rock and Roll Marathon. I can see the goal in sight and every minute before we get there feels like forever.
This has been an incredible few weeks and an amazing year!
The difference between a half marathon and a full marathon is THE WALL. The wall is the point of the run where your body stops burning carbohydrates and switches over to fat; this usually occurs at the 14 to 18 mile mark. For most people, this is the point where a marathon pushes them to their limits.
I finally made it past the wall this week. I hit it hard and it finally came down instead of knocking me back. Even with this success, I can’t see how I can manage 26 miles in a month. I was bleeding in places I’ve never bled before. It was brutal.
The Lost series finale was last Sunday. It was brilliant. After so many lackluster endings to my favorite shows, it was refreshing to see Lost stay true to its character. With only a short dreary lull between mid-season 2 to the penultimate episode of season 3, Lost has set a high bar for entertainment in its six seasons.
It’s scary to believe that the show that defined my return to cilivization after the Peace Corps is ending. I’m having my own personal “Lost” experience this weekend as I will be attending the wedding of one of my closest Peace Corps friends. Like the finale, it will be like a reunion of some of my favorite people from the most memorable years of my life prior to us moving on to the next step in our lives.
I spent this Memorial Day weekend relaxing after another long run. I also watched three seasons of a kid’s show called Avatar: The Last Airbender on netflix watch now. M. Night Shamalayan is turning it into a movie. The show will be a tough act to follow; I haven’t been this enthralled with anime since the classic “Spirited Away”.
Over the past 6 months, I’ve gone through a number of computers:
– HP 2140
– Viliv S5
– Lenovo Thinkpad X200s
– HP 5101
– Sony Vaio P
– Toshiba NB305
– HP 5102
– Lenovo Thinkpad X201s
It’s becoming clear I have a problem – I can’t commit to my gadgets. While I’m ecstatic that eBay allows me to buy and sell them with few financial consequences, I’m wasting far too much time looking for a miracle. My goal has been to find a perfect combination of battery life, portability, features, and performance. I’m not going to find something that makes me happy.
However, I’ve found satisfaction with my new Apple iPad. It is simply the best portable device I have ever used. The touch features and battery life are in a class of their own. As an e-reader, it can’t be beat; I’ve read more books than I have in years using the Kindle application. I love working on blogs and documents with its gorgeous display. Despite the wonderful applications that can be used on an iPad, it’s clear that it can’t be used for everything. It has virtually no way to connect to any USB devices, no real file system, and there are no applications that allow me to code websites.
A net book is a cheap, slow, and smaller version of a regular laptop. An iPad is something new entirely. Over the past month, I’ve realized that it’s perfect for all my portable needs and I can’t be without it.
I’ve placed an order for a new 15 inch MacBook Pro. I feel convinced that a MacBook plus an iPad will meet all my needs. I’ve decided that I’m going all in with this theory. I’ve purchased AppleCare which is a three year warranty on an Apple product. This MacBook will be my last computer purchase for the next three years. Wow. That’s scary.
I’m getting married this year; commitment is a big deal for me this year
My fiancé, Megs, is in Germany for a two year contract with the US Military as a civilian nurse. The distance makes the relationship challenging, but we’re having fun exploring new ways to stay connected. The future looks very interesting for the both of us.
I’m typing this blog post on an iPad. I didn’t expect it to be a useful device but it is a game changer. A few more weeks and I will write down my thoughts on the iPad and it’s impact on computing.
Quick thoughts – people say that the iPad should replace a net book. I disagree. With an iPad, I feel like a regular laptop can be replaced with a net book. For media consumption, the iPad is a phenomenal device and it isn’t too bad with content creation. For significant content creation, I would argue that a net book isn’t much worse than a regular laptop. Conclusion: iPad + net book > laptop + net book.
Sometimes an event occurs that is so memorable that it defines all similar events. When Kanye West got on stage and stole the spotlight from Taylor Swift, it was something so unclassy and unexpected that it became known as the “Kanye”. It wasn’t the first time that a drunken stooge got up on stage and humiliated himself and ruined a celebration. However, it gave us a new name to call these special occasions.
This weekend, I had a “golden pig”. It occurred at a Euchre card game in Aberlyne, Wisconsin. I had never played Euchre before and I had no idea what I was getting into. The card game was an annual event and all the players were seasoned veterans. It’s a team game where four people play at a table and two players are paired up. The winner moves on and the loser stays at the same table.
For the first hour, I never moved. I was a blight upon any Euchre player partnered up with me. Despite their best attempts, I just wasn’t getting it. The second and third hour were not significantly better but I started to enjoy myself and accept my plight. Between meeting all the new people and learning the game, I was having a great time.
After the game, the host gave out awards. I earned the best award ever – a large wooden pig painted in gold a bottle of male sexual health pills. There were only 57 pills in the bottle of 60 and it had expired in 2004. However, the pig was the real prize. It has such an awkward, silly grin.
I came to an event were I knew no one, I embarassed myself, and I left with a golden pig. I had no expectations and I had an awesome time. I later realized that this wasn’t my first golden pig. I have a special talent.
One of the goals of Seattle Works is to inspire. As a board member, I often find that inspiration at our monthly meetings. On September 15th, we had a visit from Scott Oki who spoke to us about his current projects and his efforts to improve public education.
Scott Oki is a former senior-vice president of Microsoft who helped develop their international operations. Since leaving Microsoft in 1992, he has been involved some amazing efforts in the community. He has served on dozens of advisory boards for both for-profit and non-profit companies. He also runs the Oki Foundation which tackles many societal issues.
Initially, he talked about a new social entrepreneurship idea that is geared to bringing donors closer to the people that they help. This effort focuses on people who are willing to donate small amounts of money to help those in need around the world. With basic technology such as camera phones and free Web 2.0 cloud based services, this new organization will help donors see the impact of their contribution and build an emotional connection with the people being helped in developing nations. By combining this effort with social media networks, Scott talked about the tremendous viral potential of this strategy.
After that, he focused on his research on public education. I was alarmed to learn about the following issues in the American school systems:
There are more non-teachers than teachers on the payroll of school districts
A large number of teachers have tenure which makes them impossible to fire even when they are ineffective
It’s difficult to reward insanely great teachers due to unions
Children are often socially promoted to the next grade instead of earning the right by merit. This hurts the entire class as the educator must babysit instead of teach
Parents have no choice in where to send their children even if they know the school is awful
Standardized curriculums and testing have taken the creativity out of the classroom as teachers are encouraged to teach to a test instead of to the subject
The sense of outrage in the room was palpable. Scott then talked about his recent book and his ideas to reform the educational system. The name of the book is Outrageous Learning: An Education Manifesto and it is available on Amazon. I’ve had a chance to read it and it is brilliant.
The mark of a great speaker is the amount of discussion that happens after their ideas settle into the audience. After Scott left, the board talked about his ideas and the impacts of the educational crisis on our generation. Some of my closest friends who teach in our public school systems have been laid off recently; these are people who I would consider “insanely great”. Several other board members mentioned this as well. We also talked about how the WASL and the “No Child Left Behind” act have affected local school districts. We also asked ourselves if radical change was possible or even necessary.
I’m always impressed with the diverse experiences and opinions of our board members. The inspiring session with Scott Oki was a great break from the tactical work around Seattle Works events and budget.
Break’s over. SWANK is coming up fast! Looking forward to another amazing auction night on October 10th!